By way of clarification, I will be taking a topical approach for our study. It seems to make more sense so that we aren't covering the same things more than once. That is another reason that I am encouraging all of you to read the chapter for yourselves. That way you have an idea of the flow of the chapter, since we are changing the order a bit. This first week, we will be talking about how the Proverbs 31 serves her husband.
"The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil."
In verse 11, we read that her husband can trust her and has no need for any other to fill his heart or home. The word "spoil" literally means prey or plunder. He doesn't need to go find wealth somewhere else, he knows his wife is frugal and will live within the income he provides. This is something we all need to strive to achieve. I'm not talking about being miserly or hoarding things; we will discuss generosity and caring for the poor later, but we are talking about using what you have wisely and not looking for more or nagging your husband because you don't have enough for what you want or think you need. Simply put, it is contentment. Your husband will not find you a refuge from the cares of his world if all he hears from you are complaints about how he doesn't make a good enough wage or what things your friend/sister/mother/etc... have that you don't. One suggestion is that instead of calling on him to solve some household concerns, we could try by economy to save the necessary funds to take care of the need without asking our husbands for more money.
It is important to note that the word for trust used in verse 11 means to hasten, or to speed to for refuge, to be confident or sure. Similarly, safely means a place of refuge. So we see that she is meant to be a place of security and refuge for him. After a day of being bombarded by work and the world, every man needs somewhere he can go where he knows he will be able to rest and relax.
So in conclusion, let us support our husbands by being the place they can come home to, where they can find a sympathetic ear and a warm heart. Someone they can trust, without reservation and without fear.