Parenting

I have been thinking about parenting a lot lately, as in the past 7 1/2 years. I know, hard to believe coming from a mom of six kiddos, but it's true. I came across this article today on DesiringGod.org and it spoke to me in such a strong way, I had to share.

"Children are a blessing from God (Psalm 127:3, 5)...We understand that sometimes in God’s economy, blessings are not served on a silver platter. They are good — wonderfully good — but it’s not a microwavable good. It’s more like the long, tireless trek up a mountain, the kind that makes you stop and question whether you’ll actually make it, but when you do, fills you with a deep contentment only possible at the altitude in which you stand."

This explains so much and informs every decision you make as a parent. Being a parent is not easy, 5 minutes on the job will convince you of that!

"This calls for a shift in our perspective as parents. If we go into the work of parenting with a Precious Moments romanticism, it won’t be long before despair sets in. It’s just too hard if we think it’s going to be easy. It’s essential to know, especially when the going gets tough, that we are fighting hell."

As parents we are not wrestling again flesh and blood (Eph. 6:12), it is not our children who are the enemy. We are wrestling against the Enemy of our souls, who is seeking to devour us and our children (I Peter 5:8). He isn't out to mess with us, pester us or make things inconvenient. He is out to kill us; to take our children from us, to lure them away from God and kill them too, one by one. This isn't a friendly game, where we shake hands at the end and say "good game!" This is not even a "to the pain" match. This is for all the marbles, this is to the death.


Thankfully, we know that we have God on our side; that those who are fighting with Him and for Him will win. But only once we leave this earth. Until then, we fight and we fight without ceasing, on our knees and in our day to day lives.


Read the rest of article here and be blessed and encouraged in this fight, my friends!

Paul's Parenting Principles- I Timothy 3 introduction

We as humans have a problem with authority. We either want to be the authority or be anything but the authority, anything other than be under it. We try to find ways to get away from it, change it, conform it; anything rather than submit to it. Some of us have a better relationship with authority than others. Those who have experienced abuse tend to have the hardest time submitting, even to Godly authority, having been hurt by those who would have been protecting them. Our society would have us believe that all of us should be equal and that no authority is a good thing. Like it or not, God says differently and all authority stops and starts with Him.

We cannot question God; not His motives, not his thoughts, not his actions. He is the ultimate authority. We don't get to vote, discuss or change that. You can reject Him and His authority, but if you do that, you agree to the consequences of such a choice.

After that, all further authority comes from God and those in positions of authority answer to Him, whether it is a boss, a husband, a parent or any other authority.

We want our children to have a healthy respect of authority, especially God's. It is fine to examine what the person in authority is asking you to do, because if they are following God's word, then there will be a Biblical support for it. No Biblical authority should ever ask you to disobey God. But make sure that if you stand up against authority, you are standing on the Word to do so.

So much of our world, even in the church is consumed with the desire for equality and being treated with equanimity, that we have missed something important: just because we had different jobs doesn't make us "unequal". It makes us different, with different responsibilities. It's okay for someone to take the lead. It's okay for someone to be in charge. It doesn't mean they are better, more qualified, favored or anything like that. It just means God has placed them in authority.

And it's okay to submit to Godly authority. It doesn't make you weak, worthless or less important to God. It make you obedient to Him. Submit as unto the Lord is how Ephesians 5:22 says it.

I pray you will consider these things as we drive into chapter 3 on Thursday!

Blessings!

Paul's Parenting Principles on hold until February 3rd

We completed our study through I Timothy on Tuesday, but I promised we would take time at the end to cover gender issues as related to parenting principles. This is still my intention, however we are moving this weekend so I will be taking the next two weeks off to get moved and settled. We will be resuming on February 3rd.

Blessings and thanks for being patient with me!

Paul's Parenting Principles- I Timothy 6:8

I Timothy 6:8-

And having food and raiment let us be therewith content.

In our world of overabundance, many are starting to wonder, what is really necessary? How can we scale back and what is truly a need? This tiny verse in I Timothy is the answer. Food, clothing and shelter. (The word raiment here can mean both clothing and more broadly, a covering or shelter.) You can do without everything else. I think you know that this doesn't mean God promises us we can have sushi, Gucci and a mansion. It may mean for some of us, tuna fish, thrift stores and a tiny apartment. Others may have big things, but having basic needs met, should satisfy us. We have enough. It may not be your ideal and that's okay. But you have the essentials.

When training our children to be content, there are two things to remember. One is that it is caught, not taught. If they see you content with where you are, i.e. not complaining and worrying about how little you have and wanting what you don't have, then they are much more likely to be content themselves.

Second, there will more likely than not be a season (or two) where food, clothing and shelter is all you get. Needs are met, but no room for wants. You can't start talking about contentment when you are down. It has to be your attitude and talked about before so when the time comes, they know the expectation.

Prepare them for what may come. And show them that no matter what, God is providing for them too!

Blessings!

Paul's Parenting Principles- I Timothy 6:7

I Timothy 6:7-

For we brought nothing into this world, and it is certain we can carry nothing out.

The Christian life is all about perspective. We live on earth, but we invest in heaven. In all we do, we have to remind ourselves that we can expect different outcomes and different rewards because this world is not our home.

We were talking about gain last time and we spend a good deal of time in our everyday lives thinking about gain and how to get more things. But as Christians and adults, deep down we know we can't take it with us. We know we bring nothing and take nothing when we go. But what are we teaching our children by our actions and attitudes? Do they know from the way we interact with our stuff, the truth of this verse? Things are fine; they make life easier or provide us with fun or many other things. But remember they do not last, so teach them to hold them loosely. Enjoy them, but know that they are here today and gone tomorrow.

What are some ways your family has taken this to heart?

Blessings!

Paul's Parenting Principles- I Timothy 6:6

I Timothy 6:6-

But godliness with contentment is great gain.

We can be easily consumed with getting. Coming off of Christmas, though he had received many wonderful gifts, including a special fire engine, my son was insisting that he "needed" a play cell phone, because firemen need to have a phone. While I can understand his desire for authenticity, I also know he would find contentment great gain. If he would see that with a little imagination, he could make a phone with a toy he already has, he would be content to play with what he already has and not find a "need" for something more.

We can laugh at the things our children think they need, but so often this is our attitude about life. If we just had *insert something we don't have here*, we would be happy.

There is something in us that knows we need something and most of the time we default to material things to fill it. Here is our chance to show our children, because they won't suddenly become content just because we tell them how great it is, what godliness and contentment look like and just what a great benefit it is to us.  Showing our children contentment is a hard thing but if we focus on godliness, or more specifically the doctrine that promotes godliness (piety towards God), then with contentment (peace with what you have) our children will have the "gain" they seek.